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Inner child wound quiz

After working with people who struggle with self-confidence, I discovered 10 Inner Child Wounds that are holding them back from showing up confidently to transform others. Take this 4 minute assessment to find out your strongest inner child wound and what you need to do to expand financially and emotionally.

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A lack of boundaries = a lack of self esteem and w A lack of boundaries = a lack of self esteem and without them they leave us feeling anxious, resentful and disappointed. Those feelings left unchecked leave us susceptible to enmeshed relationships where we struggle to identify between our needs and the needs of others. People with healthy boundaries have a strong sense of self because they know what their feelings, needs, values and limits are, and they can access their inner knowing to speak to those things. We all have limits and these limits differ from person to person. Many times in life people aren’t trying to violate our boundaries, they’re just not aware of them. Our spiritual lesson as anxious attachers is learning to set boundaries to protect our inner child from feeling unsafe or getting hurt. To begin setting boundaries we need to get to know our core selves by asking: What do I value? What do I need to feel safe in relationships? What are my limits? 🐞 What boundaries do you need to set in relationships? Share below 👇🏻+ if you’d like support on healing anxious attachment I really recommend shadow work as it will help you shift into secure future functioning by healing the deeper feelings of loneliness, rejection and abandonment, my inbox is open #anxiousattachment #shadowwork #relationshipadvice
What our biggest fear is is what we’re here to d What our biggest fear is is what we’re here to do 🔥 As children we’re wired to want our parents' approval - we need them in order to survive and we need them to like us so they feed us. If we get their attention, attunement, warmth and love, our nervous system is regulated and we feel safe in the world. But if we don’t get their consistent attention, co-regualtion and love, then we feel rejected and we internalise the belief “I’m not wanted”. This belief becomes personal and deeply embedded into our psyche until we develop self awareness and realize it was their unresolved wounds and not ours. Even more so, we pass this need to be liked onto others. We search for acceptance from the unavailable. We worry about what people think of us. We struggle to say no. We hold back from sharing our truth. We diminish ourselves to be liked. But no matter how much we sacrifice ourselves in order to be accepted we never feel complete. As we do the internal work and recognise our fears, we can heal. We do this by accepting that our parents were wounded with unresolved trauma. That they didn’t have the support systems or cornerstone from their childhood to be the parents we needed. That they numbed their feelings to escape the colossal problems they didn’t know how to deal with. Our universal lesson in this soul battle is that the problems our parents gave us are opportunities to orient our consciousness, so we can evolve and experience life force energy to the highest degree. When consciousness comes through our body to experience life, we have the option to accept what we’re experiencing and allow consciousness to move through us or to resist what is happening in the moment. If we resist the experience of our consciousness and we don’t allow ourselves to feel, we suffer. But when we allow ourselves to feel, we give ourselves the time to apply our consciousness to our fears, and alchemise our fears into our greatest gifts. Leave a ❤️ if this lands. #healingjourney #purposecoach #soulpurpose #motivation #motivationalquotes
Inside of all of us is an inner child who needs ou Inside of all of us is an inner child who needs our love, validation and acceptance 💓 If we’ve felt estranged from our parents or grown up feeling unloved, unseen and unheard, then our inner child will still hold these painful feelings and memories. Doing inner child work allows us to come home to ourselves and connect with ourselves with love and compassion. It’s a powerful therapeutic healing technique that helps us to go back and redo experiences, so that our inner child has the love, support and stability they needed. We can then metabolise these emotions in a safe and regulated way and let our body know that we’re not in the past anymore and we’re safe now. What does your inner child need to hear from you? Take action 👇🏻 🐝 Anxious attachment quiz to discover your top anxious pattern that sabotages your relationships 🧡Listen to my podcast becoming secure on iTunes 🕊DM to book a starter session. This will be an hour session where we go inward & connect with your inner child, and help you find immediate emotional relief. This is £90 for a starter session. Send me a DM with the word “serenity” if you’re ready to book a session. #innerchild #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #innerchildtherapy #innerchildcomingout #healingjourney #purposefulliving #purposedrivenlife
Last night I was watching Tim Burton’s Charlie a Last night I was watching Tim Burton’s Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. I felt saddened for Willie because his father was strict, negligent and emotionally cold, and I couldn’t help but think about his wounded inner child. Burton had a similar relationship with his father and he said it was an amazing catharsis to do the film, giving him an opportunity to work through his feelings. After he lost his father, he said “I made some attempts to communicate with him and have some kind of resolution. His death wasn’t a huge sense of loss, because I have been grieving the absence of a relationship with him my whole life”. This struck a chord with me, as I went through waves of feelings and emotions connected to my dad. Those unresolved emotions seeped through my relationships and I continually attracted emotionally unavailable men who reinforced and re-energised these deeper wounds. 4 years since my dad passed, I’ve come to peace with it and I’ve never felt more loved and connected to my dad. When I gave myself the permission to feel my feelings, I could metabolize them and create space for a new relationship with my dad. In many ways it freed me and allowed me to carve a new path for my life. I learned that although he wasn’t here anymore I could still connect with him. Sometimes it’s listening to music he liked, wearing clothes he liked (he was a bit of a hippy when he was young and wore purple flares 🕺) and then sometimes his wacky sense of humor moves through me and I feel his spirit. What things have helped you process your grief? How can you connect with people you’ve lost? Hope you are ok ❤️ #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #innerchildtherapy #innerchildcomingout #healingjourney #selflove #griefjourney #griefsupport #griefhealing
We need to feel safe to go after the things we wan We need to feel safe to go after the things we want. When we heal the parts of us that feel unsafe, we can cultivate inner safety, connect to our intuition & pursue our manifestations 🌈 🤗 Tag a friend who needs to hear this #innerchild #innerchildhealing #traumahealing #selflove #selflovejourney #selfgrowth #selflovequotes #manifestation #purposecoach #healingjourney #healingquotes #selfgrowthjourney
Attachment and relationship trauma leads us to los Attachment and relationship trauma leads us to lose trust in ourselves and others. Healing is about strengthening our inner compass so we can cultivate self-trust and become discerning about who we invest our time and energy in 🤍 Tag a friend who would appreciate this 🙌🏻💘 #anxiousattachment #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #attachmenttrauma #relationshiphelp #relationships101 #relationshipadvice #relationshipcounselling #relationshiptherapy #healthyrelationships #datingtips #relationshipcoach #datingcoach #datingadvice #innerchildhealing #healing #healingjourney #traumahealing #breakthecycle #bestrelationshipadvice #relationshipmanagement
As anxious people, we will often feel the need to As anxious people, we will often feel the need to be other than how we are and hide who we really are. 🤭 This means that we hold back from speaking our truth out of fear of losing a connection. This is also because typical relationship advice tells us to “play it cool, don’t be needy and appear confident”. But this keeps us stuck in a sticky pit of people-pleasing. Ignoring how we feel.. Hiding our needs.. Suppressing our feelings.. Self-abandoning ourselves in an attempt to protect ourselves from being abandoned. In truth, when we communicate our feelings and needs, it saves us from someone who isn’t compatible with us. If someone withdraws from us and can't meet our needs then it protects us from staying in a relationship in which we would be neglected. 🔥Sometimes when people leave us, they free us. They give us the freedom to move on and focus our energy on those who can hold and meet us. So, how can we start communicating our needs? Let’s say for example, someone cancels plans and you feel hurt. ✨Instead of trying to conceal this, you want to communicate it and tell them how you FEEL. 🌿 When you focus on the feeling and NEED you’re asking for, others will hear you out. 🔆 This will paradoxically show that you’re self-confident and assertive, rather than relying on insecure strategies, such as hinting or testing. 💎 In using crystal clear communication from the start you are honoring your needs and you’re setting the tone for a conscious relationship that is honest, pure and takes into account each other’s needs. Drop a 💛 if you’re committed to communicating your needs and levelling up in relationships. You’ve got this ✨✨ 👉Follow @becomingsecure.co for more tips on the co-creation of pure, honest and conscious relationships 🤍🕊✨ #anxiousattachment #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #attachmenttrauma #relationshiphelp #relationships101 #relationshipadvice #relationshipcounselling #relationshiptherapy #healthyrelationships #datingtips #relationshipcoach #datingcoach #datingadvice #innerchildhealing #healing #healingjourney #traumahealing #breakthecycle #bestrelationshipadvice #relationshipmanagement
Do you criticise when you don’t get your needs m Do you criticise when you don’t get your needs met? Perhaps you people please and don’t set boundaries in your relationships? It wasn’t until working with a therapist that I realised that I was doing all of the above. I was feeling hurt, angry and resentful and it was creating unbalance in my relationships. What I learned was that these were Anxious Attachment Patterns I learned to keep me safe as a young child. These patterns aren’t bad, but are adaptations I learned to feel loved and survive. Fortunately, I was able to heal these patterns and experience mountains of healing and I’m now in a secure and healthy relationship. The same can happen for you to ❤️🙌🏻 If you’d like to dive deeper and create secure, loving & attuned relationships, I can help you heal these patterns through my Secure Attachment Repatterning Method. My inbox is open 🤍✨ #anxiousattachment #anxietyrelief #attachmentstyles #relationshippatterns #relationshipsheal #innerchildhealing
If you lean towards anxious attachment it’s like If you lean towards anxious attachment it’s likely that you have a fear of abandonment due to experiencing repetitive physical departures in your childhood. This manifests into the fear of people leaving in your adult relationships, because your inner child (the memory of the previous child you were) feels abandoned. Here’s some words that calm abandonment anxiety 🤍✨ Psst, if you’d like to overcome anxious attachment I really recommend inner child healing as this will help you to process buried emotions beneath anxiety. My inbox is open 🕊✨ I do therapy over Zoom in the US, UK and Europe. #anxiousattachment #abandonmentissues #abandonmenttrauma #anxietyrelief #anxietysupport #anxietyawareness #anxietyrecovery #anxiouspreoccupied #attachmentstyles #relationships101
💛 Which of these do you have down? Let me know 💛 Which of these do you have down? Let me know in the comments 👇🏻 #anxiousattachment #anxietyrelief #anxietyrecovery #relationships101 #attachmentstyles
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