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As you sit in heaven and watch me every day. I kn As you sit in heaven and watch me every day. I know that you had to go so that I could find my way. I see you wishing the days you could of been a better dad. So I try to understand and not get mad. I no longer fight or strive for your love. Because now that you’re up there, I feel it from above. Don’t feel guilty that you denied a life for me. You taught me wisdom and that was meant to be. Up there is really beautiful, just you wait and see. You’re love incarnated. And your love is always with me. 🤍
#sharingawin “Wow I really needed that and did #sharingawin “Wow I really needed that and didn’t realise I had all of these parts. I feel so much more relaxed now”. I sat in the park yesterday and did somatic IFS with a client. My client was struggling with shyness and low self esteem and felt she couldn’t be herself in social situations. So I asked her to close her eyes, go inside and notice any physical sensations. She said she felt a tightness and zig zag in her stomach that was critical of her and dominated her system when she was in groups of people, so we called this part the “critical part”. I asked her: what does this part want you to know? And it responded with: I have to step in, otherwise other people wouldn’t understand me. So we sat with this part and spent some time getting to know it and dialoguing with it. For the first time ever, she was able to connect with that part that was protecting her. And she found compassion for that part 😍 Moments later she took a big breath of relief and I could see a wave 🌊 of calm and relaxation move over her entire body. We connected with her other parts and helped her develop open curiosity and compassion for the “nervous part”, the “rejected part” and the “shy part”. She left the session with a big smile on her face saying she felt excited about connecting with her parts more through drawing. I felt so fulfilled to calm another soul 🤍 Here’s to loving your parts and finding inner peace 🌊💙✨ ➡️ P.S If you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, low self esteem or relationship difficulties, IFS is a beautiful framework for relaxing your defences, nurturing your inner world and cultivating self-compassion and self-confidence. If you’d like to book a session, and would like more information, I offer a complimentary phone consultation.
Is there a voice constantly doubting your abilitie Is there a voice constantly doubting your abilities? I know what it’s like to feel stress, worry and anxiety when you’re moving into a new territory. In the past I’ve got frustrated with myself for not realising my soul purpose earlier. I even said to myself “I could have been a therapist all this time”. Gah! I knew that I wanted to help people heal, but deep down I didn’t think I was “good enough” or knowledgeable enough. And because I didn’t think I was enough, I became a self development junkie -- immersing myself in all the workshops, training and courses I could get my hands on. Although I learned valuable psychotherapeutic skills and healing techniques to help others, I realised that it wasn’t my lack of knowledge that was holding me back... it was my lack of self-confidence 🤯 If you can relate then you probably have the belief that you’re not enough impacting you. This shows up as: 🔸 Judging yourself when you are expanding or doing more 🔸 Thinking “I’m not ready yet” 🔸 Seeking more qualifications 🔸 Comparing yourself to others 🔸 Procrastinating 🔸 Feeling confused and blocked Essentially, you feel under qualified to pursue your calling, when you’re probably overqualified 🤯 So why is this happening? The subconscious mind is a powerful system and if we have unresolved feelings of rejection, unworthiness and shame then we will develop defence mechanisms to prevent us from feeling those feelings ever again. One of these defence mechanisms is the “inner critic” to undermine our self confidence and protect us from being rejected, feeling unworthy and feeling like a failure. The good news is that through parts work therapy you can unburden your shadow aspects, so that you can tap into your higher self and activate self confidence. When you activate self confidence, you can: ✨ Find unconditional self-acceptance ✨ Know that you are lovable ✨ Pursue and embody your soul purpose ✨ Cultivate unwavering self belief ✨ Feel proud of your unique abilities & accomplishments If you’re ready to activate self-confidence, I offer parts work therapy to rising stars. Book a complimentary consultation with me if you’re interested. Link in bio 👉
Being deep in the human experience peels back all Being deep in the human experience peels back all the layers that brings you back to your infinite truth🤍🙌🏻
We’re already whole and complete but our fragmen We’re already whole and complete but our fragmented ego likes to separate us. Coming home to ourselves is about integrating all of our parts so we can find that divine inner union that exists within us. Have a blessed day earth angel ❤️
Emotional discovery and emotional truth is the key Emotional discovery and emotional truth is the key to overcoming childhood trauma and freeing yourself from the inner prison you’ve created to protect yourself from being hurt ❤️🙌🏻
Sometimes we abandon ourselves because that’s wh Sometimes we abandon ourselves because that’s what we’ve learned to do to survive. It’s toxic as hell, but we keep doing it. After so many people walk in and out the door, we learn to lock it. So we learn to abandon ourselves by numbing our feelings, turning a bling eye to problems, people pleasing and not taking care of ourselves. When we abandon and ignore the feelings of our inner child, we’ll manifest experiences that reaffirm our fears. Coming home to ourselves is about unlearning the destructive patterns that make us feel abandoned, so we can learn the right ways to love. 🔥Tune in to episode 3 of Starchild Sister podcast where I’m talking about the 9 ways we self-abandon ourselves 🔥
Your sensitivity is your superpower ⭐️✨ Yo Your sensitivity is your superpower ⭐️✨ You sense others pain. You feel other people’s subconscious thoughts and feelings. You notice when others aren’t showing up. You observe when others are inauthentic. Sensitivity is the very essence of who you are. If we took away your sensitivity, we would take away your conscience, your intuition, your discernment, your rich inner world and your wild heart. Keep soaking in the light and sharing your light with others. Give me a “❤️” if you are going to start honouring your sensitive powers.
Last week I felt a ball of anxiety in my heart, ch Last week I felt a ball of anxiety in my heart, chest and stomach. I was upset because I hadn’t heard from someone, and I felt disappointed. I’d gone from feelings of passion and connection to complete nothingness and the other person's coldness and distance was starting to hurt me. I felt myself going down a spiral of “I feel hurt”...“I feel used”. Years ago I would have ignored and numbed the feelings and I would have self-abandoned myself by staying in my head. But after learning to release my shame around being a deep feeler, I was able to feel the rawness of my heart. I said to myself: it’s ok to feel. It’s ok to feel hurt. I am human. I have to feel it to heal it. So I sat on my sofa and cried. I went for a walk to clear my head. Pulled out an oracle card and journalled. And then I went to see my friend. I told her what had happened and said that I was starting to feel used. I told her that this connection wasn’t living up to my standards and that I had reached my limit. She said to me I’m so glad that you’ve come to this realisation. And all the inner work that I did last year on self love and self worth brought me back home to myself. 👑 I honoured my standards 💗 I expressed my boundaries 💫 And I put myself first. Life can be emotional and turbulent at times but that’s ok. The key is being able to differentiate existential pain (current pain) from wounded pain (pain from the past) and not letting your body react from a place of the past. I’m slowly learning to break away from past pain. But I also know that the body’s reaction to pain is an intrinsic response and we can’t always just stop it. ✨ Sometimes it’s learning to take a pause between stimulus and response. When we notice our reaction and breathe into this space between stimulus and response, the space widens ⬜ ⬜ ⬜ ✋We stop reacting as the powerless and helpless children we once were. 💖 We learn to love, nurture and reassure our inner child that yearns to feel loved and worthy 💖💖 💜And we start showing up as healthy and whole adults. If you’d like to learn how to heal your inner child so you can shift into love send me a DM. I’d love to support you ❤️
If god is forcing people out of your life. Let it If god is forcing people out of your life. Let it happen. God heard conversations you didn’t. Saw things you didn’t see. Not everyone and everything in life is a loss. In every relationship there is you, them and god. One of his ways of loving and protecting you is subtracting one person from your life. Certain things have to end so better things can begin. When one door closes, five more open. Give me a “❤️” if you are committed to letting go of people and things that don’t serve you.
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