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I’ve been a working with a client to help her he I’ve been a working with a client to help her heal anxiety and today she said: “I've had so much therapy over the years & I feel like this is getting to the root of my anxiety, I'm really glad I found you" 😍. It’s so fulfilling to help people heal the deep-rooted wounds beneath anxiety. I couldn’t ask for a better job ❤️ If you’re struggling with anxiety or anxious attachment and you’d like to heal your inner child and create inner harmony, I offer inner child therapy sessions in Bristol and on Zoom. Clients tend to experience emotional relief after one session. DM me with the word “anxiety” and we can chat about if it’s right for you. #anxiousattachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #relationships101 #relationshipgoals #anxiety #anxietytips #consciousrelationships #anxietyawareness #anxietyrecovery #anxietyrelief #anxiety #anxietysupport #anxietyproblems #anxietyattack #anxietymanagement #anxietydisorders
The manifestations of attachment trauma are primar The manifestations of attachment trauma are primarily subconscious, so talk therapy or psycho-education are insufficient in transforming anxious attachment patterns (criticising, people pleasing etc). True transformation comes from healing the underlying pain and wounds beneath anxious patterns, so you can release hurt and emotional energy from your mind and nervous system, and transform anxious patterns into secure patterns. 💫 In our signature group program Heal Anxious Attachment, we’ll show you how you can transform anxious patterns into secure patterns through healing underlying pain. 🧬 Inside they’ll be transmissions designed to integrate these secure patterns psychologically, emotionally, physically and spiritually, so they’re fully integrated into your mind, body and spirit. 🌏 You’ll be able to see the habitual patterns of the old paradigm of functioning and begin to grow and shift into your higher heart and embodied self. 🌱 You’ll learn consciousness keys to seed a new paradigm of a relationship that can be learned and integrated. 🌈 As you integrate the healing and absorb the teachings into your consciousness, an inner adventure will unfold…you’ll cultivate the expansion of presence, calmness, effective communication, trust and surrender, and you’ll come back to a secure connection from the inside. ❤️ Our intention is that this program will support you through a period of healing & growth, so you can shift into secure functioning and create deep and nourishing relationships. 🌹If you’ve been seeking the keys to secure attachment and harmonious relationships, this is it. Send a DM with the word “secure keys” to find out if this program is right for you. #anxiousattachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #relationshipadvice #traumahealing #innerchildhealing #traumarecovery #relationships101 #attachmenttrauma #innerchildtherapy #innerchildwork #relationshiptherapy #relationshipcoach #relationshipcounselling #consciousrelationships #selfcompassion #selfconnection #spiritualrelationships #bristoltherapist #bristoltherapy
The breakdown happens before the breakthrough... The breakdown happens before the breakthrough... And this week life is opening up 🌎🌿 Parts that have felt tethered have brought me back home deeper to myself... Aloneness has birthed deeper self care, clarity and a higher calling for connection & community.. 💫 Deep listeners & space holders who are on a similar path.. ❤️ Who ask you how your heart is... ❤️ Who lead with compassion and hold you when you’re vulnerable... ❤️ Who give you the token of their loving attention and ask questions. This yearning for heart-led community has solidified the juiciest desire that I’ve had for so long.. To connect with fellow space holders who seek to weave connection, community, healing and growth into one sacred space 🙏🏼 🐚 Connection rituals have been weaved.. 🌱 Seeds have been planted... 🌈 And visions are being empowered for the year to come... Feeling tethered by isolation, teaches us that listening is a soothing balm for our souls 🌿 I believe this time of year is a potent time of aloneness and manifestation ~ to reclaim tethered parts of ourselves and make our soul wishes and heart desires real. And right now, we need listening hearts and heart-led spaces more than ever. If you’re craving for deeper connection and community, you can manifest it with the inner knowing that what you are seeking is seeking you 🕊✨ #aloneness #connection #community #isolation #listening #emotionalintimacy #relationships #listeningskills #listeninghealsourworld #loneliness #lonelinessquotes
Loneliness isn’t just solitude but it’s a stat Loneliness isn’t just solitude but it’s a state of distress. This is because there is a gap between wanting to connect with people and being able to connect. 🐸 As infants, how we feel safe is through looking into our caregivers eyes. When we can feel their touch and have our feelings mirrored, our nervous system is regulated and we feel safe in the world. 🌿 It cultivates safety, calmness, peace and a solid foundation for our future relationships. But if we didn’t have consistent co-regulation, attention and attunement from a caregiver, then we develop deep and painful feelings of loneliness. 🐛In parts work, these are called “burdens” of loneliness because these younger versions of ourselves were neglected, abandoned and emotionally abused and because they had to deal with trauma alone (neglect, abandonment, divorce, narcissism abuse, family estrangement, bullying) these younger versions of ourselves feel lonely. If you resonate with this, I want you to know that I know what it’s like to feel deeply lonely, and here is a BIG, MASSIVE, WARM HUG ⛄️⛄️⛄️ 🌊 Don’t forget that these feelings are temporary and like a wave they will rise and fall. If you’re going through a wave of loneliness because you’re more isolated than usual, then I would really recommend getting support. 😊 The good news is that you can heal these burdens of loneliness, so you can bring more presence to these younger versions of you and open your heart to the connection and intimacy that you yearn for. 😍 I have a beautiful healing approach to unburden the lonely parts of you that are holding pain and hurt. Send me a DM to see if this would be right for you. Can’t wait to support you and free you from this burden, gentle soul 🤍🕊 #anxiousattachment #complexptsd #complexptsdrecovery #attatchmenttheory #attachmenttrauma #neglect #emotionalabuse #emotionalneglect #abandonmentissues #abandonmenttrauma #abandonment_issues #depressionsupport #depression #lonelinessquotes #loneliness #aloneness #innerchildhealing #innerchildhealing
As you step into secure attachment you will be unl As you step into secure attachment you will be unlearning defenses that block secure intimacy and you will be learning 🌿 secure qualities to embody secure attachment. ✨Underneath it all, we’re all hardwired for secure attachment ✨ When we are born into the world we are gifted with natural qualities of innocence, love, wonder, playfulness and a magical aliveness and curiosity about the world and people around us. But somewhere along the way, we get disappointed, let down and we take on burdens of fear, pain, insecurity and distrust, and later on in our adult lives we feel blocked and removed from connection. What helps us to return back to our innate warmth, openness & presence is learning positive qualities for living more fully and joyfully. 🌳 These might be qualities that help us to feel safe, secure and stable to help us to feel grounded inside ourselves (calmness, stability, security). 💫 Qualities that help us to find our north star and actualise our calling, such as purpose, vision and flow - so we’re not preoccupied by our relationships. ❤️ Qualities that enhance our relationships, such as assertiveness, love, appreciation, patience, communication, trust and intimacy. 🙏🏼 And qualities that enhance our spiritual connection, such as peace, presence, receiving, spaciousness and surrender. What qualities do you want to cultivate in 2022? Share below 🌺🌸🌹🌷🍉🍓🍧🍄 In my signature program – Becoming Secure, we will help you to let go of anxious patterns (people pleasing, criticizing, overthinking), heal underlying pain from relationship trauma (abandonment, rejection, betrayal) and cultivate secure qualities to shift into secure functioning. So if you’re ready to change the trajectory of your relationships in 2022, join us in this safe & supportive cocoon to reflect, heal & grow (starting February 7th! 🕊Send me a private message to lock in early bird pricing #anxiousattachment #insecurity #attachmenttheory #selfgrowthjourney #personalgrowthjourney #relationships101 #securerelationships #secureattachment #selflovethreads #selflovejourney #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #selfdevelopment
❤️Are you ready to work through defenses and c ❤️Are you ready to work through defenses and create safe & supportive relationships? 🌿Are you ready to heal attachment wounds and trauma, so you can integrate past versions of yourself into consciousness and become more grounded, open, calm & present? 🕊Are you committed to shifting from anxious to secure attachment, so you can change the trajectory of your relationships for good? Then I invite you to join me in Heal Anxious Attachment - an 8-week group program (starting February 7th) that fosters permanent healing through subconscious healing & personal growth. This is for you if ~ You lean towards anxious attachment and experience relationship anxiety ~ Have intense fear of abandonment and rejection ~ Feel neglected in relationships and like your partner never wants to spend time with you 🕊To enrol as an early bird, click the link in my bio #anxiousattachment #attachmenttheory #abandonmentissues #abandonment #securerelationships #consciousrelationships
When we can attune to our feelings, needs and rece When we can attune to our feelings, needs and receive internal support we can receive the care, comfort & support from others 🎇🪄 ✨ Comment ❤️ if this lands #anxiousattachment #attachmenttheory #anxietyawareness #anxietyrelief #anxietysupport #anxietyhelp #anxietytips #selflove #relationships101 #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcounselling #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing
Anxious attachers have attachment patterns that sa Anxious attachers have attachment patterns that sabotage their relationships. These are subconscious patterns that they’ve learned as a result of attachment wounding from childhood. To let go of these patterns we have to cultivate an embodied sense of compassion & presence, because these past versions of ourselves have helped us stay safe and survive. In my new case study group heal anxious attachment I help you to let go of defenses and heal attachment wounds, so you can shift into secure functioning. So if you relate to ~ relationship anxiety ~ intense fears of abandonment, rejection and loneliness ~ feeling neglected in relationships and like your partner doesn’t want to spend time with you Then I would love to invite you to join this safe & supportive 8-week cocoon. 🐛DM me “cocoon” to find out more. #anxiousattachment #secureattachment #attachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcounselling
🌿 Being connected to our feminine energy is abo 🌿 Being connected to our feminine energy is about being connected to our feelings at any given moment. Our feelings aren’t bad, they’re simply messages that we’re out of spiritual alignment and our emotional needs aren’t being met. As human beings we seek emotional nourishment as much as food, shelter and water. We have our own set of needs that help us to feel safe, content at peace and fulfilled. Without them we may feel frustrated, disappointed, hurt or dissatisfied in ourselves and in our relationships. Our emotions are clues to our unmet emotional needs. ✨ If we can be honest with ourselves about how we’re feeling then we can identify how we feel, sit with the feeling in our bodies, process the feeling and then reflect on the unmet emotional need that is firing that feeling. Let’s say for example you feel lonely, where do you feel the loneliness in your body? Is it in your throat chakra? Maybe it’s in your heart? What sensations do you notice there? Perhaps it’s a raised heart beat or a lump in your throat. Get curious. Practice sitting with that feeling of loneliness with an energy of compassion and genuine concern to get to know it better. Now, if that lonely feeling were to tell you about it’s world, what would it say? What does it want you to know? What is it experiencing? It might be that it’s feeling isolated and it needs community. Or it might be that it’s feeling unheard by friends and it doesn’t feel listened to or empathized with. Everyone has their own unique set of emotional needs, the key is dialoguing with our feelings to find out what they are. 🔑 All the answers are inside of you, all you have to do is listen. #anxiousattachment #attachmentstyles #Relationships101 #anxietyrelief #anxietyrecovery #securerelationships
Our challenge as anxious attachers is to stop givi Our challenge as anxious attachers is to stop giving our power away to people & circumstances and surrender to our own path. This means falling deeply in love with ourselves and feeling safe & secure from within. The more we surrender and let go of patterns (criticising ourselves or others, overthinking, ignoring, people pleasing, over contacting) the more others will come towards us. Relationships are more energetic than words or actions. It’s less about what we did or said and more about the subtle energetics we feel within ourselves. When we are insecure & guarded we will block secure intimacy and invite unsafe people into our lives. When we are warm, open, grounded and present, we will invite safe & secure people into our lives. Here’s my biggest life lessons of shifting from anxious to secure 👇🏻 (I’m 85% secure according to tests, so still more work to do but holy moly what an achievement, considering 2 years ago I was 80% anxious). 🌎 Learn to stay with yourself when you have big, overwhelming feelings. You can do this by putting your hand on your heart and say “it’s ok for me to be with this intensity”. 🐝 Build a support system so you’re not relying on one person to meet all of your needs. Different friends can meet different needs. 🦄 You will thrive when you redirect the focus back to you. Feel good about who you are, your inherent value & connect to your purpose & energy you bring to the world to feel fulfilled and whole. 🔥 Lean back into your warm, open and receptive energy. Practice receiving intimacy and notice the loving gestures of others. The more you surrender the more others will come towards you. What are your biggest life lessons? I’d LOVE to hear 😍 Wishing you love & peace ❤️🕊 #anxiousattachment #attachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #relationships101 #securerelationship #innerchildhealing #innerchild #innerchildwork #relationshipproblems #relationshipanxiety #anxiety #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice
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